Unsportive Manager

I was hosting a coaching call the other day and I wanted to share the problem that we discussed in case you are experiencing a similar situation. The person I was speaking to has an issue where their manager is actively sabotaging their career development. If you want to be successful, you have to take control of your career because no one else will do it for you. And when your leader creates roadblocks that prevent you from growing the way that you wish, it becomes even more important to own your own career.

If you find yourself in a similar situation, the first thing you need to do is to try to identify why your leader might be behaving this way.

Your manager may have some form of bias. This could be a form of prejudice such as racism or sexism that should be addressed with HR or it could just be as simple as playing favorites with others on the team.
Your manager might feel threatened by you. There are several reasons why your manager could have these feelings from being a below average performer to being new to the role.
Another reason that your manager may not support you is that they may just not be aware of what it actually takes for you to advance. Though, if you have been following this podcast for any length of time, I regularly encourage you to have career conversations with your leader to ensure that they are invested in your development.

By understanding the source of the problem, you can adjust your approach towards finding a resolution.

Start by having a conversation with your manager for feedback on your performance. Prior to this conversation, review Episode 012 - Receiving Effective Feedback (https://www.managingacareer.com/12). It may be a difficult conversation given the contentious relationship you may have, but it is important to maintain a level of professionalism and avoid getting defensive about anything your manager says. Ideally, you don't react at all to any faults that your manager indicates -- whether true or not. Even if they are actively preventing your progress, there will still be items that they think you should work on.

Your goal with this feedback is to spend the rest of the year generating evidence to counter each believe. For instance, if there are skills that your leader thinks you are weak in, look for training that can supplement your abilities and try to find opportunities to showcase them to your organization. Use this evidence during your performance review to prove that these are not weaknesses.

If your leader believes that you have issues related to your performance on assignments or projects, create a weekly status report. Review Episode 044 - Reporting Status (https://www.managingacareer.com/44) for some guidelines on what makes a good status report. This status report should be sent to your manager, the project manager, and your manager's leader. It is important that your status report include not just the activities that you have completed or made progress on, but also the value that those activities provide to the company -- in dollar amounts if possible. Additionally, relate the status back to your annual goals and your personal career goals.

By documenting your performance with a full circle view and sending it to a wider audience, you ensure that your manager is not the only person aware of your performance. When it comes time for your annual performance review, you can summarize the details from all of your status reports and provide details of which of your goals you have completed.

Another strategy to help you when your manager is blocking your career progress is to find an advocate. Episode 029 - Building A Network (https://www.managingacareer.com/29) can give you techniques for meeting and identifying potential advocates. Ideally, your advocate would be someone who is in your organization as either a peer or a senior leader of your manager so that their opinion has weight. When your performance is discussed among the leaders, having and advocate can ensure that someone will be speaking positively about you instead of just hearing the biased opinion of your manager.

If none of these strategies improve the situation, the more severe options is to look elsewhere. If you have an advocate, they may be able to help your find an internal position that you can transfer to. Just be sure to do your homework to ensure that the new situation isn't just perpetuating the problem. If your would-be new manager is friends with your current manager, any bias may carry forward. If there are no internal positions -- or at least none that provide the opportunities you want -- the next step would be to look outside of the company.

If you are facing a challenging situation at work and could use a career coach, reach out to me via the Contact Form at ManagingACareer.com (https://www.managingacareer.com/contact/). I'll schedule an introductory session much like the one that inspired this episode and if we are a good fit, we can schedule regular sessions to help you get your career on the right track.

Are you looking for a career coach? If you reach out to me via the contact form, I will arrange an introductory session where we can talk about your career goals and how I can help. If we're a good fit, we can schedule regular coaching sessions.