Relationships of the Office

If you want to be successful in your career, you will need to build relationships with the people at work -- peers, superiors, and subordinates. Strong relationships build strong networks. This week, we look at the different types of relationships you'll find in the office and key aspects to building them.

Unless you're the CEO, everyone has a boss, a manager, a leader. When it comes to career growth, this is probably the most important relationship to build and maintain. A good relationship with your boss will ensure that you get the assignments you need to develop.

The first step in building this relationship is to spend time understanding your leader. What is their preferred form of communication? What is their approach to leadership? What are their priorities and how does your work support them? Once you understand these factors, you will need to adjust your communication approach to match theirs. Knowing their priorities allows you to focus that communication on the right messaging. If your leader is customer focused, talk about the impact of your work on customer satisfaction. If your leader if driven by the financials, report your status in terms of dollars saved. Your goal is to have your manager view you as a partner; someone who supports them and their goals. Clear, frequent communication that addresses the things that they care most about will help them view you as someone who "gets it".

If your manager is the most important relationship, the next most important is with your peers. A great relationship with your peers will lead to more productive efforts on your projects.

When it comes to peers, the focus is on collaboration and cooperation. People respond favorably towards people that help them. If you focus on the competition side and take steps to undermine your peers, they will react in kind and make it more difficult for you to complete your projects.

In the event of a conflict between you and your peers, it's important to handle them calmly. Don't attack the person, but, instead, address the issue. If you are unable to separate the issue from the person, take a break and document your reasoning so that you can present it later. If you are still unable to come to a resolution, bring in someone else to act as a mediator. Handling conflict professionally will improve the relationship with your peers even when you disagree.

If you are a manager, yourself, a positive relationship with your subordinates builds a team that performs better and directly leads to your personal success.

When it comes to your team, your relationship relies on some key aspects. Be open and honest in your communication, this transparency will help you build the second aspect -- trust. But, trust is a two way street. Showing your team trust by guiding and empowering instead of commanding and micromanaging allows them to trust your leadership in return.

So far, I've focused on professional relationships. But, when we spend as much time at work as we do, you are bound to develop social relationships as well. These friendships can help make your time in the office more enjoyable and can even extend beyond working hours into personal time, too.

But, be careful that these friendships do not lead to cliques that exclude other members of your team. This can erode any positive relationship you've built within your team. Draw a line of professionalism when performing your duties and save the personal interactions for downtime and breaks. By maintaining a boundary between your social relationships and your work, there will be no impediment to continue growing your relationships with the rest of your team.

The final relationship type to address is that of a romantic relationship. Like friendships, keep your relationship professional at work so as to not disrupt the performance of the team.

But a romantic relationship comes with additional concerns. Be sure you stay in compliance of any company policies. There are often restrictions on romantic relationships that involve any sort of reporting structure. There is also the possibility of complications that could arise if the romantic relationship sours. One or both participants in the relationship may need to be prepared to transfer to another area within the company to address any issues related to the relationship.

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